How to choose the right bridesmaids and groomsmen?
At the wedding ceremony, the bridesmaids and groomsmen are the second pair of "soul figures" after the bride and groom, and they also play a very important role in the wedding: they can assist the newlyweds to deal with temporary or unexpected situations, contact and coordinate relevant wedding staff, etc. Therefore, it is necessary for the newlyweds to choose the most suitable bridesmaids and groomsmen for themselves. How to choose the right candidates, please see the precautions summarized by the editor for you:
First: Choose someone with organizational skills to be the best man and bridesmaid
The choice of the best man and bridesmaid may not be the best friend of the newcomer. If the best man and bridesmaid are mainly colleagues from the same company, they can also invite people with relatively high positions, but there is not a big gap with the newcomer, and they are people of the same age group to do it. They are leaders in life and will be very handy for this job.
Second: Determine the number of people according to the size of the wedding
Small weddings with less than 100 people: 1 pair is enough. Even if you have a lot of friends, you should not invite too many best men and bridesmaids. When a simple wedding meets a large group of brothers and sisters, the aesthetics of the whole wedding will decrease.
Medium wedding for 100 to 300 people: 2 to 3 pairs of groomsmen and bridesmaids are appropriate. These good friends have complete control over the wedding scene.
For large weddings with more than 300 people: 5 pairs of best men and bridesmaids are appropriate. However, even if the number of people is large, it should not exceed 5 pairs. Don't let the huge group of brothers and sisters steal the limelight of the newlyweds. If the wedding reception is too grand, you should still invite a professional service team to organize the wedding.
Third: the closer you are to the newcomer's life circle, the more suitable it is
Usually, people have friends who they know through a large social environment, such as classmates, colleagues, neighbors, etc. They have the same real-world friends as the newcomer, understand the newcomer's social circle, and choose such friends as bridesmen and bridesmaids, because they can handle it well in drafting guest lists, maintaining on-site order, and many liaison tasks.
Fourth: How to reject an unsuitable candidate
If someone really wants to be your best man or bridesmaid, but because the number of people is limited or the person is really not suitable, how can you refuse him?
If there is a person who is not suitable to be a bridesmaid or best man, it is due to two factors. One is that the person is not so good with you, and you have many better options. In this case, you can refuse on the grounds that the wedding reception is not large and the number of people is limited; or say: "I would love to invite you, but I have already agreed to someone a long time ago." And express my sincere apologies. Such a rejection is easily accepted by most people.
Another is that this person has a good relationship with you, but he really doesn't have the qualities to be a best man and bridesmaid. When you meet such a person, you can explain to him in detail the responsibilities of the best man and bridesmaid and the time and energy it takes. If your friend is the kind of person who is usually careless and loves to forget things when doing things, he should give up when he hears this.
