Valentine's Day is also known as Cheating Day in Chinese
It is a household name that the seventh day of the seventh lunar month is the traditional "Qixi Festival" of the Chinese nation, which is the Chinese "Valentine's Day". And February 14 of the Gregorian calendar is the "Valentine's Day" in the West. After the reform and opening up, this foreign festival gradually took root and blossomed on the land of China.
However, due to well-known reasons, "Valentine's Day" in the West is now more respected by people in the Chinese mainland, especially in cities. However, a large number of people have deliberately or unintentionally alienated "Valentine's Day".
On the occasion of Valentine's Day, according to a Chinese third-party folk survey report, more than half of the parties have a bachelor's degree or above, and fewer have a low educational level; in terms of age: most are middle-aged people aged 35-45; in terms of marriage age: most are married in a short-term marriage of 2-3 years and children are growing up; in terms of gender: the probability of women cheating is significantly lower than that of men. And around Valentine's Day is the peak period for discovering "third parties". A few days ago, a dating website released the "2011-2012 China Marriage and Love Concept Survey Report". In the survey of "confidantes", the rate of men in Sichuan who "have (have) confidantes" is as high as 74%, ranking first in all provinces, and the national average of this data is also 69%.
As far as concepts are concerned, there is an essential difference between "third party" and "confidante", that is, the former often has "physical derailment", while the latter usually has nothing to do with "carnal satisfaction". But in the real world of China, "confidante" is mostly synonymous with "third party".
In a nutshell, "derailment" has become commonplace among certain groups of people, and the arrival of "Valentine's Day" in the West has provided them with a more beautiful excuse. Therefore, there is the saying that "around Valentine's Day is the peak period for discovering the'third party '". It is well known that the Chinese nation regards "two hearts as one", "husband sings and wife accompanies", "loyalty" and so on as traditional virtues. However, in the past three decades, along with the ideological trends of individual liberation and the pursuit of freedom, men and women have been "physically derailed", and even social undesirable phenomena such as prostitution and whoring have become increasingly rampant. Sexology expert Li Yinhe and other groups such as "wife swapping" and "decriminalization of prostitution and whoring" that violate traditional Chinese virtues undoubtedly played a role in fueling the flames.
It is true that it is very normal for people to have good feelings between people, and even to have feelings of liking and love, but why do human beings stay away from the "casual intercourse of the body" in primitive society, and step by step deduce to today's "monogamy"? This seems to be a very deep problem, but it is actually very simple, that is, because "casual intercourse of the body" will not only endanger the physical and mental health of the individual concerned, but also cause a great negative impact on the family and society, and is not conducive to the continuation of human beings. What's more, does love between men and women have to be physically possessed?
Many people will disagree with this, and may start to abuse the author Luo Shuyi. In fact, to abuse the author is in fact to abuse himself. If you don't believe me, please continue to read the following. Ask: Who will automatically tell their husband or wife after "physical infidelity"? Who will support their parents in "physical infidelity"? Who will support their children, daughter-in-law or son-in-law in "physical infidelity"?
Usually speaking, people don't. Why? Because he knows in his heart that "physical infidelity" is harmful, because he knows in his heart that he can't live with face, because he knows in his heart that "physical infidelity" is immoral. However, when he is faced with the temptation of "physical infidelity", he often can't hold back and becomes a "cheater". Why is this? To put it bluntly, this is an extremely selfish psychology at work. In other words, others can't do it, but he can do it himself. Of course, "physical infidelity" is immoral in nature, and it is inseparable from the lack of self-control.
Of course, "If a person is not a sage, who can be wrong?" But sadly, many Chinese people now feel that it is nothing to be "physically derailed", that is human nature. Yes, former Chinese leaders, including Chiang Kai-shek, also "physically derailed". However, what is less known is that from the highly credible "Diary of Chiang Kai-shek", once he "physically derailed", he will inevitably scold himself in the diary, and sometimes even when he is just about to "derail" mentally, he immediately loses to traditional Chinese virtues, and soon stays away from "physical derailment" and records it. However, the bad social phenomenon of "physical derailment" is now increasingly despised by more and more people.
According to media reports, Tu Shiyou, a 38-year-old single master, recently built a "Yapin Chastity Network" and advocated "keeping chastity before marriage". This move does not rule out the suspicion of speculation, but in terms of the healthy development of society, its positive significance cannot be ignored. Although sexology experts such as Peng Xiaohui disagree, saying that "if it is a personal behavior, I fully respect it, but after she established a website and attracted attention and became a public topic, her behavior may lead the cultural trend and social development direction. I hope she will not use chastity as a moral label to show her chastity."
As for Mr. Peng Xiaohui's thinking logic in sexology, in May 2011, the author has already analyzed the relevant commentary article refuting his opinion that "women who have been sexually assaulted should take the initiative to hand over condoms", so I will not say more. However, it needs to be reminded that since Mr. Peng Xiaohui "fully respects" Tu Shiyou's "personal behavior", why does he "hope that she will not use chastity as a moral label to show her chastity"? What kind of strange thinking logic is this? Of course, no matter who it is, it has the voice over it and the right to decide its own behavior.
For example, according to a report by China News Network on February 14, 2012, the reporter found that on an online forum, a post titled "Valentine's Day is Cheating Day" was hyped: "Valentine's Day feels like a'Cheating Day 'for lovers and lovers in China. In the name of love, under the guise of love, it is blatantly indulgent, because love, because this festival, the spirit and carnal desire win-win..." "Maybe it is because traditional cultural and moral concepts have been bound for too long and need to be open and open, maybe'lonely people are shameful', Valentine's Day without a lover is doomed to be sad, so I look forward to Valentine's Day encounters and Valentine's Day indulgences..." Some netizens asked: "I don't know how many couples are real couples who live in Valentine's Day hotels?" Of course, there are also many voices of opposition. A huge advertisement for anti-Valentine's Day derailment has appeared on the domestic expressway recently. The red billboard reads "A knife on the color word", "Don't derail Valentine's Day and let love go home", "persuade you not to borrow money quickly" and other words. Among them, the word "color" is a bloody knife. It is understood that this is an advertisement paid by netizens of China Anti-Pornography Network at their own expense. The promoter of the website said that in recent years, Valentine's Day in the West has become increasingly popular due to the hype of merchants, but its negative impact has also been controversial. Obviously, the above coverage can be described as mixed sadness and joy.
In fact, a similar situation has also appeared in other cities across the country, and in recent years, the voices against "physical infidelity" have been getting louder and louder, especially as "Valentine's Day" approaches. Although there are still some smart people and some self-righteous so-called sexologists who are still obsessed with "physical infidelity" or "prostitution and whoring", and try to find all kinds of beautiful excuses for social bad phenomena such as "physical infidelity" or "prostitution and whoring".
However, the author believes that, out of a high degree of responsibility for themselves, others, family and society, and humanity, I hope that all Chinese sons and daughters will not regard Valentine's Day as a "derailment festival", and at the same time, they will no longer be misled by some so-called sexologists and other groups. They will no longer go against traditional Chinese virtues and cause "physical derailment" that not only hurts themselves, but also affects the healthy development of families, society and human beings.
