How can I avoid becoming a spare tire?
Love spare tire, I think everyone knows the meaning of these four words, right? As the name suggests, it is a substitute for ta to retreat at any time. A ta with a spare tire is hateful, but as long as we pay a little attention, we can say no to the spare tire. Come on dear, let's take a look with the editor, how to prevent being used as a spare tire by ta:
Many relationships develop from ambiguity. Friends > good friends > ambiguous > boyfriend and girlfriend. Without going through these stages, go directly? Say how sincere you are, but girls like to play and don't know anything, disdain, don't play with her, and say you have sincerity?
Even if you are sincere, sincere, and serious... You haven't experienced these stages, and you don't know each other well, how can you be serious? Do you ask the other party to believe that you are serious or that you are hijacked by hormones?
Do you know that a lot of ambiguity is a girl's inspection of you? Refuse to be ambiguous? Refuse the inspection period? Want to turn positive directly? Go directly? It's faster to spend 300 yuan to go out and find a massage shop, otherwise go back and rub it.
In fact, the stage after the ambiguity is very troublesome... once fresh, twice interesting, thirty or fifty times down... Whether it is going out to play 419 or some funny sincerity, or no commitment, no responsibility, can advance and retreat, can attack and defend, can withdraw at any time Ambiguity is better.
And those who don't have girls and hate to play ambiguous, maybe you got a basic thing wrong.
Playing ambiguous requires a clear strategic purpose. If the other party has a boyfriend, then ambiguous is just a process. The purpose is to grab her, not to post a good person card and accompany her to pass the boring time. You can use SWAT analysis before action, don't waste the great opportunity cost.
If the other party doesn't have a boyfriend, then the ambiguous strategic purpose is to grab her, play with her, and show your sense of security and charm.
Personally, I think that for a man, playing ambiguous, if you are away from it, you can't be messy at the bottom of your heart, stick to your own principles, stick to a few points, reject a few points, get close to a few points and then alienate a few points, refuse any non-specific requirements. Show your personal charm, be sure to let the girl guess your thoughts, and never let the other party lead you by the nose.
For example, when playing a game, the girl said to help fix a computer, so wait a minute. In self-study, the girl said to help fix a computer, reading a book, how about tomorrow, or come out and read a book together, there is still a place next to me. Don't refuse anything, bang, good person card.
Being infinitely good to the other party is a tactic to be used at the girlfriend or wife stage.
The girl wants to play ambiguous, the girl likes high handsome and rich, even if it is not high handsome and rich, you must learn to pretend. You must not act as if you have never seen a woman in a hurry, and you want to skip ambiguous. Even the investigation period of ambiguous can't pass, and you look like a sperm in your head, how can you tell the other party that you are sincere, how to give the other party a sense of security, how to be mature and stable, and how to impress the other party?
Natural selection, survival of the fittest.
What should I do if I become a spare tire?
In the process of improving his skills in chasing girls, his inertia as a good person cannot be eliminated in the short term. Over time, he has become a girl's spare tire: he can date and have an ambiguous relationship, but he does not recognize him as her boyfriend.
A brother said that after meeting a girl at a dating agency and giving her a computer and designer shoes, he found that he was still her spare tire and ended his contact with her angrily.
Promote positive thinking, because it will make you look forward. If you find yourself irritated or jealous in the process of chasing a girl or dating, then the most important thing is to think about what you want.
Discovering that he is a shiny spare tire, impulsively destroying relationships, in fact, men lose the most, they lose a lot.
Not only did the gift cost money, but also the relationship was invested a lot, and it was difficult to get it back in the short term.
Now that the relationship is severed, the man can be said to have lost both people and money, and the loss is heavy!
In fact, it is normal to pursue a beautiful girl and become her spare tire.
You think, which beautiful girl is not pursued, she must have known a lot of people who were interested in her before you, and you can't stop men from chasing her after you.
In love, spare tires are very common. The spare tire is that the girl dates you, talks to you about relationships, and asks you to eat some tofu, but she and several other men do the same, and do not admit that you are her boyfriend. This shows that she is not completely attracted to you, and it is a pity to let you go. In the future, her genuine tires are broken, or the genuine tires have not arrived, so you will be the top. There are many such women and men. I have also been a spare tire. You need to understand that a girl is not yours when she knows you, because she will also have other suitors, and even already has a boyfriend.
If a girl doesn't have a few spare tires to choose from, she's either too nerdy or she's a bit apologetic.
Being a spare tire is not scary, what is scary is that you can't accept the fact that you are a spare tire, so you don't use the correct method of chasing girls to make yourself her "genuine tire".
We need to have a clear positioning of ourselves. If we find that we "have paid so much" and still cannot become positive, please accept this fact first.
No big deal, love is everywhere spare tire!
Please don't rush to destroy the relationship, don't rush to "increase investment" in her, what you need is the right way.
Have you given a gift? She loves it, but then you still can't turn over, super depressed?
What you need, then, is "conditional gift-giving," commitment within your means, and attraction.
After helping her with her savings, she wants her to agree to be a girlfriend, but she ignores you?
What you need is less confession, but to stay friends with her by helping her complete tasks and applying techniques in dating to make her attracted to you.
Every time she asks you out or you ask her out, she calls a bunch of friends over and asks you to pay for it?
Occasionally, you can do it. After you buy the order, you need to ask her to invest in your relationship and learn more about her from her friends.
It's like this on every date, and you're about to reposition yourself. Is she really testing you, or is she just using you as a kid?
