What does spare tire mean? Emotional spare tire again
A spare tire is to prepare a spare tire for the car. Once the wheel blows out or has a problem, the spare tire can be replaced in a convenient and timely manner, and the car will not break down halfway. As the name suggests, this "emotional spare tire" is to give yourself a tire like a tire in the emotional destination, one or even more backups. "emotional spare tire" generally refers to love.
The characteristics of emotional spare tire
The emotional spare tire also meets the characteristics of the "spare tire": 1. It meets the basic requirements of the owner; 2. It is stored in the trunk for emergencies; 3. It needs maintenance.
1. Meet the basic requirements of the owner
One situation is that it is not too far from the mate selection standard, and it may basically meet the requirements, but it is a low match. The other party will feel that there is still a possibility of development, so they will leave a way out for themselves. Another situation is that even if the mate selection standard is far behind, the other party finds you useful and meets other requirements, but they do not plan to develop feelings with you, but just use your feelings for him to help him.
2. Store in the trunk for emergencies
That is, you are connected. She will contact you when she needs material help, and she will also contact you when she needs physical help. It is not that you rush to find someone and your family will reject you, and you will not ask for help if you are busy. This kind of "perseverance tire" is wishful thinking. They have given you all your freedom and never used you as a spare tire. Even if you follow the car yourself, it is also your freedom, so this kind of seeker cannot be called a spare tire.
3. Need maintenance
According to the definition of a spare tire, it needs regular maintenance, and the same is true of an emotional spare tire. It is necessary to give some small favors to comfort the other party appropriately, even if you take the initiative to ask the other party for help. This psychological comfort is sometimes enough to become spiritual food for the admirer.
